It doesn’t matter if the people you meet become your lover, your friend, or your dinner party story of the decade; the important thing is that instead of closing yourself off, you’re open to whatever comes along. Remember, good social skills are something you need in this world whether you’re single or not.

Of course, what sometimes comes along is that rare and beautiful thing: the spark. Do not be alarmed. Do not run or faint or collapse in a panic. There will be plenty of time for you to screw things up later on should you two ever decide to get romantically involved. For now, all you need to do is enjoy the moment. Pay attention to what the other person is saying, particularly if they’re saying things like “My husband and I are celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary this weekend” or “I saw lots of stabbings back in the big house.”

If you like what you hear, tell them you’ve enjoyed talking to them. At this point, they’ll somehow impart to you that either (1) that’s all there is to it, (2) they’d like things to continue as well, or (3) they’re just as socially inept as you and have no idea how to proceed. Unfortunately, most of these messages are communicated through nonverbal means, which can make it difficult for anyone other than a dolphin or alien to figure out.